The Frog Prince

‘It’s not that you got what you wanted; it’s that you settled for wanting what you got. And that is the precise opposite of a happy ending.’

From Tiger Beatdown › “Elitism:” Now, It Basically Just Means “Not Having Sex With Everybody”:

We get a lot of sexist narratives about love, but none of them are more pernicious and subtle than this: The Frog Prince story. You could call it “Beauty and the Beast,” too. Or you could call it “Twilight,” or “Knocked Up,” or “Rory Williams Won’t Stop Whining;” it’s always the same story, anyway. Girl meets guy. On the surface, this guy is unappealing! Because he’s a frog! Or he’s not sexually attractive to her, or he treats her badly, or he’s immature, or he’s Rory Williams and he won’t stop whining; all of these are frog-like states, generally considered unkissable. But only a bitch would think that frogs don’t deserve our sweet, sweet kisses, so the woman doesn’t leave. Instead, she looks for the guy’s good qualities. She lowers her standards; she changes her expectations. She gives up on her silly little “ideas” about “attractiveness” or “compatible lifestyles” or “having fun with her partner.” Finally, she loses touch with her own desires to the point that she winds up making out with a fucking frog. At which point he becomes a prince. Or a loving husband, or a responsible person, or a whiny little Roman Centurion; the point is, in these stories, once you give up on wanting things from men, men magically become what you want.

Here’s the secret, though, if you are the girl in this particular story: That guy never became a prince. At all. He’s still the same guy; he still possesses all those qualities you initially found unappealing, for all sorts of valid reasons. People don’t go from frog to mammal overnight, and they particularly don’t do so because you ask less of them; you are still making out with a frog, in the long run. The only reason he looks like a prince nowadays is that you lowered your standards to the point that you literally could not tell the difference between frog and mammal. It’s not that you got what you wanted; it’s that you settled for wanting what you got. And that is the precise opposite of a happy ending.

Pushing Daisies: Candy-Coated Family Friendly?

Pushing Daisies is one of our favorite shows on TV right now — wonderfully quirky, and often feels to me like what might have happened if _Edward Scissorhands_-era Tim Burton had gone into television. The Disney Weblog has been doing weekly wrapups, and something about this week’s review got under my skin a little bit.

[Pushing Daisies][1] is one of my favorite shows on TV right now — wonderfully quirky, and often feels to me like what might have happened if _Edward Scissorhands_-era Tim Burton had gone into television. [The Disney Weblog][2] has been doing weekly wrapups, and something about [this week’s review][3] got under my skin a little bit.

[1]: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pushing_Daisies “Wikipedia: Pushing Daisies”
[2]: http://thedisneyblog.com/ “The Disney Blog”
[3]: http://thedisneyblog.com/2008/10/23/frescorts-pushing-daisies/ “The Disney Blog: Frescorts (Pushing Daisies 2.4)”

(Since what follows hinges upon the final shot of the show, I’ll pop it under the cut to avoid spoilers…)

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Nobody's tried this yet?

Frankly, I’d be more than a little surprised if nobody had attempted zero-g sex yet, no matter how strenuously NASA denies it. Still, if you’re looking to be the ‘official’ first couple to give it a shot (and happen to be absolutely filthy rich), just give the Russian space agency a call!

Frankly, I’d be more than a little surprised if nobody had attempted zero-g sex yet, no matter how strenuously NASA denies it. Still, if you’re looking to be the “official” first couple to give it a shot (and happen to be absolutely filthy rich), just [give the Russian space agency a call][1]!

[1]: http://www.news.com.au/common/story_page/0,4057,8275323%255E13762,00.html “News.com.au: Cosmonaughties no Mir fantasy”

> THEY put the first man in space, then the first tourist. Now the Russians could make one wealthy couple the first members of the 240-mile-high club.

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> In its latest attempt to develop space tourism, Russia is offering a pair of newlyweds the chance to swap Venice or Paris for a cosmic honeymoon on board the international space station.

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> For $US48 million ($65 million) – the cost of a pair of space return tickets – the couple could become the first to experience the uncharted joys of sex in zero gravity.

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> “It would bring the mile-high club to new heights,” said Rob Volmer of Space Adventures, the company that has teamed up with the Russian Aviation and Space Agency to offer the trip.

(via [GothicVamps][2])

[2]: http://gothicvamps.typepad.com/gothicvamps/2003/12/finally_sex_in_.html “Sex in space”

There goes that fantasy

…erections in space are difficult to achieve because in zero gravity, blood tends to collect in the head and feet.

> …erections in space are difficult to achieve because in zero gravity, blood tends to collect in the head and feet.

— [Constance Adams][1] during [PopTech!][2] (via [Jason Kottke][3])

[1]: http://www.hobbyspace.com/AAdmin/archive/Interviews/Systems/ConstanceAdams.html “An interview with Constance Adams”

[2]: http://www.poptech.org/ “PopTech – The Impact of Technology on People”

[3]: http://www.kottke.org/03/10/poptech-roundup “kottke.org: PopTech Roundup”

Male contraceptive on the way?

With a few more years of testing and study, it appears that may finally be an effective male contraceptive.

With a few more years of testing and study, it appears that may finally be [an effective male contraceptive][1].

[1]: http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3167090.stm “Male contraceptive ‘100% effective'”

> Scientists have developed a male contraceptive which was 100% effective and side-effect free in trials.

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> The hormonal treatment is a combination of an implant under the skin and injections – meaning men do not have to remember to take a pill every day.

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> Researchers from the Anzac Research Institute, Sydney, Australia, gave the treatment to a relatively small sample of 55 men for a year – and none of their partners became pregnant.

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> However, it will be some time before the treatment is widely available.

Very cool. Right now it’s a two-part treatment: a under-the-skin implant replaced every four months, and an injection every three months. Maybe with time it’ll be simplified a bit, but no matter what, I think it’s great that there’s at least an encouraging step towards something like this.